New year, new you… right? Honestly speaking, if I had a dollar for every time I’ve said that or even heard that, I’d be a very wealthy lady. This year though, I resolve to be different. Let’s all make a serious commitment to being better, stronger and healthier versions of ourselves this year. How? It all starts on the inside.
This isn’t something that comes naturally for us women. We’re taught from an early age to consider the needs of others before our own. This year, let’s change all of that. In the words of Michelle Obama: “We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to-do’ list”. That means saying no to invitations if you really don’t want to go, or simply switching off your cell phone if you need a little break from the world. Set aside at least an hour each day to spend time completely on your own doing things you enjoy doing guilt-free.
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you,” says Canadian poet Rupi Kaur. Make a conscious effort to speak to yourself with kind, loving words. When you look at yourself in the mirror, while you’re taking a walk or even running on the treadmill, pay attention to your inner dialogue. Formulate a self-love mantra that keeps you feeling positive and bright. It could be something as simple as Viola Davis’ beautiful line from The Help: “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” Because you know what? You are!
Ditch the Need to be Perfect
What could you achieve if you were only less scared of not being perfect? “The beauty of you is not where you are perfect. It is where you are fearless.” So says New York poet Cleo Wade. This year, let’s push through our so-called imperfections and embrace the fear instead. I love the line from the Matt Damon film We Bought A Zoo: “Sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” Let’s make this the year of little bursts of bravery. Trust me, we’re worth it!